My husband and I faced our own personal struggle a little
over a year ago. My husband had taken on a more demanding job due to the fact
that he was worried about our financial situation. I'd been staying home full
time with our two young sons and even though our mortgage was being paid each
month and we had food on the table, there was nothing left over for extras. We
couldn't go to a movie or even take a family vacation.
Even though I logically knew this, I still felt slightly abandoned
by my spouse. I resented the fact that he went to work each day, talked to
other adults when I was confined to the house with our two little ones. I
started to pull away from my husband and it didn't take long before it became a
thorn in the side of our marriage. He noticed the change in me and would question
me often about it. I wanted him to be able to understand what I was feeling but
I knew that if I started trying to explain it to him, that I'd mess up and the
words that he absorbed would be much different than my true intention.
Things became so strained between us that I eventually moved
in with my parents. Our marriage was quickly falling apart and I was certain
that within months we would be divorced. I hated the idea of my boys not living
in a home with both of their parents. Each time they saw their dad they'd beg
me to move back into the house with him. I just couldn't. I knew that our
issues hadn't been resolved and I also knew that if I jumped back into the
marriage in the state it was in, that we'd end up hating each other forever.
Then one day, out of the blue, everything changed. My
husband's attitude was much different. He
asked me out on a date and although I
was wary, I knew that it couldn't hurt for us to spend that time alone
together. We talked for hours and he listened to everything I was saying. He
was attentive, loving and understanding.
Within days of that date I did in fact move back into our
home and we worked together over the next few months to repair our marriage.
It's very strong now and although we still have the occasional disagreement,
we're working hard together to get over any conflicts so we can be the happy
and loving couple that we both want to be.
One evening, after the boys went to bed, when we were
sharing a bottle of wine, I asked my husband what changed for him. To that
point I was convinced that he had gone to therapy on his own but he confessed that
he'd actually found help to save our marriage online.
The Marriage Savior is designed to aid men who want to save
their marriage and alter the dynamic with their wives. It taught my husband how
to minimize the conflict between us while rebuilding the broken bonds. I'm
thankful for it each and every day.





