When Your Wife Falls Out of Love with You

Marriage isn't always easy. We all think that our love story will be different from everyone else. We believe that the joy and contentment we feel on our wedding day will last forever and always. We don't factor in things like mortgage payments, job losses and the impact children have on the connection. If you're a husband you may suddenly realize that your wife seems less interested in you or that she's less invested in your life. She's pulled away. She doesn't tell you that she loves you nearly as often and she's out doing her own thing more and more.

It's devastating when this happens if you're a caring and compassionate spouse. You can feel the shift within the dynamic between you and your wife but you have no idea how to change things back to the way they used to be. Perhaps you've spoken to her about what you've noticed and she's told you that you're imagining it all and that everything is fine. You know that everything isn't fine. You feel your marriage slowly being pulled away from you and you're lost. Before you give in and let her slip away from you forever, you have to gain some insight into what you can begin doing today to get your marriage back to the loving and committed place it once was.

Why Did She Fall Out of Love?

The one question that you can't seem to escape from is why has your wife fallen out of love with you.

Perhaps, to you, the relationship is exactly as it always has been and you still love and adore her just as much as you did on the day you two wed. Obviously, that's just not how it is for your wife. Something shifted within her and now she doesn't see you as the man she wants to spend her life with. There are several reasons why this happens and if you can gain a better understanding of why your wife doesn't love you the way she once did, it may help you put the pieces of your crumbling marriage back together.

1. She's unhappy with herself. Quite often a woman will misjudge what she's feeling and will look to her husband for blame when her marriage isn't exactly the way she wants it to be. This is frustrating if you're the man who can't live without her. Talk to your wife about what is going on in her life right at this moment. You may find that she's struggling with an issue related to her job or maybe she's not happy with the fact that she never got the degree she's always wanted. If you can pinpoint what is causing her so much unhappiness, you may actually find that it's an issue unrelated to you and the marriage.

2. She feels neglected or taken for granted. Marriage isn't always easy. Quite often the couple gets pulled apart because they simply don't have the time or energy to devote to one another anymore. It's discouraging when this happens and it's also inevitable that one of the partners is going to end up feeling more neglected than the other. If you put in long hours at the office and your wife is generally responsible for much of what happens at home and with the children, she may start to resent you and the choices you are making.

3. The emotional connection isn't satisfying to her anymore. Women need much different things from a marriage than men do. Your wife wants and needs to have a strong and satisfying emotional connection with you. That doesn't mean you have to continuously pour your heart out to her. But it is helpful if you ask her if she needs to talk or you try and predict what you can do for her. Simple things like holding her hand or rubbing her shoulders can make all the difference in the world.

4. She feels more like your roommate than your life partner. When children enter a marriage, the dynamic between the couple can shifted quite dramatically. You're no longer a romantic couple, you're now a family unit. The problem is that you need to try and ensure that the romantic couple part of the two of you thrives. Do romantic things for your wife whenever you get the chance. She wants to still feel that you see her as a desirable woman.

Understanding what has caused your wife's feelings to change can help you pull her back closer to you. The most important tool you have to repair your marriage is insight. There is a guaranteed way for you to transform your relationship with your wife beginning today.